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10 Tips on How to be a Successful Husband
10 Tips on How to be a Successful Husband.
1.) Dress up for your wife, look clean and
smell good. When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas?
Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her
husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasulullah SAW would always
start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
2.) Use the cutest names for your wife.
Rasulullah SAW had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your
wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their
feelings.
3.) Don’t treat her like a fly. We never
think about a fly in our daily lives until it ‘bugs’ us. Similarly, a wife will
do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does
something to ‘bug’ him. Don’t treat her like this; recognize all the good that
she does and focus on that.
4.) If you see wrong from your wife, try
being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasulullah SAW used
when he would see something inappropriate from his wives Radiallahu Anhunn. It
is something that very few muslim men have learnt or practice with their wives.
5.) Smile at your wife whenever you see her
and embrace her often. Smiling is sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the
muslim ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember
also those Ahadith when Rasulullah SAW would kiss his wife before leaving for
Salah, even if he was fasting.
6.) Thank her for all that she does for you.
Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the
food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the
only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the
soup. Don’t be that person; thank her!
7.) Ask her to write down the last ten
things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may
be hard to recognize what makes her happy. You don’t have to play a guessing game,
ask her and work on repeating those things in your life.
8.) Don’t belittle her desires. Comfort her.
Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasulullah
SAW set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah RA was crying because,
as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her,
and brought her the camel.
9.) Be humorous and play games with your
wife. Make her laugh, have little ‘inside’ jokes and moments with her. Honestly
your wifes laughter is one of the best sounds in life. Make her smile keep
& her happy. Look at how Rasulullah SAW would race his wife Aisha RA in the
desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
10.)
Always remember the words of Allah’s
Messenger SAW: “The best of you are those who treat their families the best.
And I am the best amongst you to my family.” Try to be the best!
Never
forget to make dua to Allah SWT to make your marriage successful. And Allah SWT
knows best. :)
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